Long Distance Relationships

As you go off to college as freshmen, many of you may be entering your first phase at a long distance relationship.  You might be worried about whether you can handle it, or if it is worth doing.

Talk about it

What is unknown can hurt you most when you are in a long distance relationship, so you should discuss it with your partner before you leave.

Figure when you will see each other, how often you will talk to each other, and how open (or not) the relationship will be.  And tell them how you truly feel, not what you think they want you say.

Don’t feel restricted

At college, you are going to meet new people and find new activities that you like.  In addition, pursuing extracurricular interests can distract you if you are feeling lonely.

For me, the first month of my long-distance relationship was very hard, and I felt lonely a few times. When I picked up some extracurricular activities, I felt better about myself, and I am now much more involved with my school.

Think about the relationship

Over time at college, you may feel differently about your relationship, or you may feel even stronger about it.  Discuss this with your partner, and always be respectful of what they say and how they feel.  Relationships work best when there is truthful communication.

If you feel stronger about the relationship, tell them.  If they feel the same way, it can bolster your connection through the time that you are apart.

If anyone has any feedback, or advice about long-distance relationships, please let me know below.